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Thanksgiving is almost here. Are you ready? Contrary to the picture perfect images in mass media, this is a naturally stressful time of year for almost all of us. If you a new baby or a small child at home, you may find it takes nothing less than supernatural strength to juggle holiday tasks. Here are some sanity saving ideas that will allow you to navigate (and maybe even enjoy!) the holidays:
Learn to say no, and don’t feel guilty about saying it.
This time of year is overflowing with social events. In a land called Perfect, we would have all the time and energy we need to engage in everything we are asked to do. In reality, it is necessary to give ourselves permission to set ecological boundaries. This essential step allows us to be present with greater joy in the activities we do choose.
Let Baby lead the way.
Let the youngest members of your family be your guide. Most little ones need a stable routine and peacefulness that is rarely found at holiday gatherings. If your baby’s temperament is such that he or she doesn’t care for the constant commotion of the holidays, consider leaving events early, or simply not attending.
Release images of the “perfect” holiday season.
So many of us envision picture perfect holidays complete with beautiful decorations, perfect presents for everyone on our lists and bountiful tables filled with freshly baked goods. Even without the added tasks new parents face, like nursing, diapering and trying to get in a few winks of sleep, the reality of our experience can never compete with impossibly idealized images.
Sort your lists into Musts, Shoulds, and Wants, with special emphasis on Wants.
List everything that you absolutely must do in the Musts category. Obviously, these take top priority. Things you feel pressured to do, but don’t really want to do belong in the Should category. I urge you to pare some of these things off your list. Finally, write everything you actually want to do in the Want category. Pay close attention to this one for the sake of your mental and physical health. If you’re like me, items on your Want list start off at the bottom of your priority list. Join me in changing that by making a commitment to ensure that you gift yourself some of these for the holidays!
Stay tuned for Part Two of helpful holiday survival strategies this weekend!
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